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Just Outside My Door 02/21/13

February 27, 2013
By ELAINE G. COLE - COLUMNIST ( , Westfield Republican / Mayville Sentinel News

I sit at my computer ready to write my weekly column, but before I begin I look out the windows and admire the picture I see outside.

The pristine snow in the yard, the naked trees, the small weathered "catch all" building and gently falling snowflakes might not impress most people, but to me it represents the essence of a winter day in the country. Oh, isn't a perfect representation for there's some tree branches sticking out of the snow as a result of yesterday's wind. Nevertheless, it's beautiful to me because it is our home site, and there's no place I'd rather be on this day.

The dictionary has numerous definitions for the word home. One of the first mentioned is a house, residence or other dwelling place where a person or family lives. There are all kinds of homes. For me, it has always been a place where, as a child, I felt safe and loved. Although sometimes in those days I didn't like to always obey my parents, I knew who was boss. Unfortunately, nowadays I often wonder who is boss in some homes.

There are all kinds of homes. When we were married, we made certain vows in front of many, including God. We've made mistakes over the years, but thankfully we've both changed and tried our best to have a good marriage and home. If I were asked how it all worked out, I can only say "God is good." We had good examples and a strong belief that marriage is "until death do us part."

I believe, however, that in some instances it may be detrimental to ones health, or to that of their children, to remain married, but great wisdom must be used in any marital decision. Moreover, I should not condemn others, for we are to "love one another." Sometimes, under certain instances, that's hard.

It's sad to say that sometimes a home does not necessarily mean it is a safe place or one where love is displayed. Statistics prove divorce rates fluctuate from year to year. For instance, in 2005 there were 2,230,000 divorces in the U. S., and 2,096,000 without New York City in 2010. The states with the most divorces, in order at that time, were Nevada, Arkansas, District of Columbia, Massachusetts and Pennsylvania. More recent statistics are available on the Internet, but some can only be found for a price. However, I doubt the records indicate the numbers have decreased.

I don't believe a good home guarantees everything will always be smooth going and there will be no problems because people are not ever perfect. However, where there is a will there is often a way or at least help available in today's world.

I am not what they call an extremely educated person as to life, but then I don't really think anyone can fully know what is ahead and how to solve all concerns. But, for me, I do know if one seeks wisdom and adheres to it, the best way to live life is to personally know God and His Word. I have found the books of Psalms and Proverbs can give great advice for living life to fulfillment, but it's not always easy.



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